1. Making the first contact: clarity and courtesy

A first impression begins with your very first message. Clear, considerate communication sets a positive tone and helps you stand out for the right reasons.

• Take time to read the full profile: Before reaching out, review the person's profile carefully. Asking questions that are already answered there may come across as inattentive.
• Be direct and specific: Avoid vague openers such as “Are you available?” or “How much?”. Briefly introduce yourself and explain what you are looking for, along with your preferred date, time, and meeting length.
• Respect personal privacy: Use messages primarily to arrange the appointment. Avoid raising intimate or personal topics over text.

An example of a first message:

“Hello [Name], it's [Your name]. I really enjoyed reading your profile and would like to arrange a meeting. I am available on [day] around [time] for [number] hours. Would you be available then? I look forward to hearing from you!”

2. The screening process: safety comes first

Safety is a priority. It is perfectly normal for an independent provider to ask a few screening questions before confirming an appointment.

• Be cooperative: If you are asked a few screening questions, such as your age, occupation, or general area, answer simply and honestly.
• Help your host feel at ease: This step helps build trust on both sides. An open and understanding attitude can make arranging the meeting easier.

3. Getting ready and good etiquette

A successful meeting also comes down to a few simple courtesies, especially punctuality and personal care.

• Be on time and communicate changes: Arrive at the agreed time. If you are running late or need to cancel, let the other person know as soon as possible.
• Take care of your personal hygiene: A refreshing shower before you leave and a neat appearance show consideration and help everyone feel comfortable.
• Settle the agreed amount at the start: Please make the agreed payment when you arrive, simply and naturally. The listed rate is set and is not negotiable.

4. During the meeting: listen, respect boundaries, connect

An enjoyable meeting depends on good communication and respect for everyone's consent.

• Take a moment to break the ice: A brief conversation at the beginning can help everyone feel at ease and connect before continuing with the meeting.
• Respect boundaries carefully: Pay attention to what the other person communicates. Honoring agreed boundaries is essential to helping everyone feel safe and comfortable.
• Be considerate: If you offer a drink, pour it in their presence or let them serve themselves so they can feel comfortable.
• Protect privacy: Do not take photos or make video recordings without clear consent given beforehand.